I have never been in a long distance relationship before this one. Me and him have only been together for slightly over three months, but we've known each other for over four months. I'm from Nova Scotia, Canada, and he's from Brooklyn, New York. My name is Alicia, his name is James. I'm 25 and he's 26.
So far our relationship is going very well for the most part. First though, I'll tell you the story of how we met, which was completely and utterly by fate.
I have a profile on a website called DeviantArt, which I can link my profile here: http://dreamweavermtz.deviantart.com/ Basically it's a website to post photos of the art that you do (in mine and my boyfriend's case, it's photography). And when you log in, there's a home page with several photos that you can click on to look at but any time you refresh the page, there's new photos.
That day, August 27, 2013, a guy whose profile name read Brooklyn47 posted on a photo I had just uploaded. Here's that photo, and the very first conversation we ever had: http://dreamweavermtz.deviantart.com/art/Badass-Photo-395975204
I got looking at his profile, and thought well he's cute (as in his personality), we have a lot of things in common. I totally did not expect anything to happen, since I saw that he was from New York, and I was not thinking of being in a relationship at all. After that initial conversation, I sent him a note, and waited anxiously for him to respond since as you can tell by the comments, we seemed interested in talking to each other. Finally a day or two later, he did. And we didn't stop talking since then.
At first we sent notes back and forth on DA, often having multiple conversations to the point where it got so confusing I had to make folders to organize them lol. I discovered we had a lot in common, and it was almost strange how much we had in common. I am aware of internet scammers but honestly I didn't see any red flags from him from the beginning, and I'm good at spotting red flags (from experience). At first I thought he must have a girlfriend, he's too nice and cute to be single. But he told me that he was single.
To be honest, I kind of started falling for him even before I saw a photo of him. Then I did see a photo of him that he posted on DA, and thought he was cute. After a while, we decided to talk on skype since it was getting tedious to send really long (and I mean really long) notes on DA.
I don't remember the exact day that I first saw him on skype, but I'm pretty sure it was before we got into a relationship. We couldn't talk with our voices because his dad was around and of course we figured our parents wouldn't approve of us being in an LDR. So I didn't get to hear his voice until November. It surprised me, with his accent and how deep his voice is, but it grew on me, especially the second time I heard it, in which we talked for at least two hours or more.
As for how we decided to be in a relationship despite the distance and we knew people wouldn't approve or would think it's weird. To be honest we weren't really thinking of how other people would react. After a while of being friends I realized we liked each other and I brought up the idea of being in a relationship. He agreed on October 7, 2013. We knew that an LDR would be difficult, but later he told me that when he realized he liked me, he was like "fuck the distance". He's also told me that he loves road trips, and would love to drive up here to meet me, so on May 7, 2014, that will happen. He'll drive up here and finally be in my arms.
We picked May 7, 2014 because it'll be our 7 month anniversary, and I knew he was moving to Massachusetts sometime late this month, so it would give him time to settle and get a job there as well. I hope things go according to plan because I really don't want to wait any longer. As of now, I'm already getting anxious, thinking of how amazing it'll be when I get to hug him, kiss him, hold his hand.
And for telling our parents/family: at first, of course, my family thought I was crazy and that it'll never work, besides I haven't met him, how could I like him? I assured them that I've seen him on skype a lot and that he wasn't a scammer, that he's a real person. It took some getting used to, but my mom is coming around nicely, now she says that "things these days are different, just that you have to be careful". And she even asks about how James is doing and such. My sister is still weird about it, she probably thinks that he won't even come up here to meet me, and I don't think my dad thinks much about it since I don't tell him much about relationship stuff. Pretty much most of my friends are supportive too, including my best friend. I know James has told his mother and best friend, of course his mother was weird about it at first too. I'm sure she'll be fine once he comes here and then shows her photos of us when he gets back home.
As for our relationship, we've been getting along really well about 99% of the time, of course it's only early in the relationship, but he knows everything about me and I know everything or most things about him and we've fully accepted each other as we are and don't expect the other to change. We barely have fights, it's mostly me getting upset over stupid things. Again, that could change later, but I don't think so.
I'm not sure exactly what I'll be posting on this blog. Definitely the progress of the relationship, as well as some advice and input on LDR's. And of course, I will be posting a lot after we first meet. So anyone else who is just starting out in an LDR as I am, we can make the journey together. I'm really excited to meet him, so I hope everything goes well and soon enough he'll be in my arms.
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