I'm sure those of you who are also in an LDR have experienced people saying that you're crazy and it won't work out because who wants to be in a relationship with someone so far away from you?
Well, you might ask yourself the same question. But you know the answer...you want to be with them because they complete you. They're your soulmate, your true love, and you'll do anything, even overcome distance, to be with them.
Of course people will ridicule you, and say things like "how do you know they're your soul mate, you've never met them yet". There's no explaining it really. They say that you just know when you've found the one? Well, I know it now with James. He's my one. I don't care that we haven't met yet. I feel like we already have, and I feel like at times his spirit is around me. I don't care if people call me crazy. That's just how I feel.
None of my friends really made fun of me too much, besides one, but I expected it from him. But other than that it was pretty good. My family however was different. Well, of course they doubted me, and probably think it's weird that I'm dating someone so far away. But now my mom asks questions about him, and my sister isn't quite as weird about it as she used to be although sometimes she still is. My mom said that things are different these days and that I just have to be careful, which I am careful on the internet.
I do believe LDRs can really work, there is proof of that as they have worked and people have gotten married from them. So don't listen to anyone who says "LDR's don't work" because they obviously do. If you really love someone and want to be with them, nothing matters, not even distance.
But again, you do have to be careful as there are a lot of scammers/catfish out there. If you don't know what a catfish is, it's a person who hides behind one or more identities online and pretends to be someone else to reel you in, and get you to fall for them only to hurt you in the end. Here are some of the warning signs/red flags of a catfish:
- makes excuses not to go on skype, send a recent photo of themselves or talk on the phone
- cancels plans each time you try to meet with some elaborate excuse
- works overseas and has some elaborate job (a lot of times they say they're from the military or work with an oil company or own their own company or such things)
- always seems to reply instantly whenever you're online or text them
- very quickly starts declaring their love for you and saying things like "you're so beautiful and the woman of my dreams" (don't fall for that)
- starts asking you for money with elaborate excuses and promises to pay you back (they never do)
- if you've only heard their voice and/or communicated by email/text/IM and not seen their face on video, do not let it go farther until you ask to see their face, as words and pictures are easy to hide behind
- if the way they're typing sounds like English is their second language
- has a very tragic back story or always coming up with more tragic drama to get you to feel sorry for them
- sends you a first message such as "you're sexy" or "you're beautiful"
So if you're watching out for the warning signs and make sure there are none, your relationship should be the real thing. There was no warning signs from the beginning when I met James. I knew he was a real person from the start. And now we see each other on webcam almost every night, the only nights we don't see each other are when he works night shift.
I can easily tell when someone's trying to scam me or be an idiot with me online. I've had experiences before, not that I've ever been duped by a catfish (luckily any guy I met online turned out to be real), however one of my ex boyfriends would make a bunch of different fake profiles to talk to me. I could figure out it was him pretty quickly. As well as I've had guys send me really weird and creepy messages that I just ignored. It's usually pretty easy to tell when someone's being fake with you. At least for me.
I'm going to meet James in person in 107 days. I miss him a lot, and I can't wait to hold him and kiss him for the first time. When he's with me, I'll be making a lot of videos and vlogs about our trip, so I'll post them on my youtube channel for people to see. I really believe that this will work, and I'll do anything to be with him. I know he feels the same about me.
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