I've seen it, and I'm sure you've seen it too. People posting their marriage/relationship problems online and getting other people involved.
That's really not a mature way to do things. If you're pissed at someone, not just in a relationship but say a friendship as well, keep it off social media. Resolve it between the two of you rather than humiliating yourself, each other and your partner/friend online.
Online drama is no fun, I've been involved in it with friends as well as ex's. Whether it be their fault or your fault, or both, I mean it does take two to fight. It doesn't matter who started it, who's fault it is. If you notice someone saying shit about you on social media, don't take to twitter to go forward and insult the person. It makes you seem catty and you don't want to make yourself look bad as they are making themselves look bad. Just send them an email or private message asking what's going on and why they're upset with you, rather than blowing it up all over twitter or facebook. I'm speaking from learning from my own experiences.
I've seen it too often on facebook: the girlfriend/wife is mad at the boyfriend/husband and posts what he did so that his family and friends can see. That's just mean and catty to try and get people on your side. If you're married and doing this, you shouldn't be married if you can't solve your little fights on your own without getting people involved. James and I have had fights, and I'll post things like "I wish he wasn't late" or "I'm getting annoyed" but I don't go into detail about what we're fighting about. I don't go into a big speal about why I'm disappointed or upset with him and then continue to update people every 5 seconds about what's happening.
I've also even seen the boyfriend commenting about his drama with his girlfriend, so it's not just girls who do it, but the majority of girls do. Guys usually don't like to call attention to themselves with useless drama (although I have, again, seen guys with the exception to that rule) but sometimes for some reason people in general feel the need to post their personal drama on social media.
If something really big is happening and you need someone to talk to, don't proceed to make a status about it so that you have a bunch of people messaging you who you don't want to talk to. Just message a close friend or someone you know would give you good advice. Simple as that. Don't post sob statuses on facebook like "omg my bf is pissing me off I need some bffs right now".
Say if you're having a fight with your boyfriend about the fact that he, I don't know, didn't clean the dishes and was being a lazy jackass. The girl might post something like "Omg I'm tired of this, my bf ever does any chores and just sits around staring at his computer". I've dated guys who were lazy. I never complained about them on facebook. For one thing, I had his family and a couple of his friends on facebook as well, so I wouldn't want to embarrass him in front of his family and friends, even if they already knew he was lazy. It's very disrespectful to post your major problems with your significant other for the world to see.
The only times I get pissed off/annoyed with James are when he's later than I thought he'd be. But that's just a small problem that usually gets resolved with a bit of talking and explaining. And most people's problems would too, if they didn't make it worse by posting it everywhere.
I just get annoyed whenever I see another person whining about their relationship or their partner. Calm the fuck down, go talk to them, not the world. James already knows I get annoyed when he's late, but again he calms me down when he explains why. Except for last night he did get a bit upset and lashed out at me but I didn't go on twitter or facebook during the fight and say "omg he's an asshole he said this to me". He did apologize and so did I, and there, fight over.
Getting more people involved only causes things to spiral out of control and makes it worse for both of you. People will have different opinions on what you should do. Some will side with you, some will side with him. Like I said, it's best to just not announce to the world whenever your partner does something you don't like, or whenever you two get into a tiff. I don't get why people do that, to be honest. I've seen family drama on facebook as well, one day the girl was cursing her sister out for something stupid she supposedly did and a bunch of people got behind the girl without seeing her sister's side of the story and I was like omg is this drama worth it? Do you really need these people behind you to boost your ego? If I were her sister I would have unfriended her because of how immaturely she went about it. Whenever me and my sister fight I might say something on Twitter but that's different, on Twitter I only have a few of my close friends but it's mostly people I don't know. On facebook it's much more personal because again you have family, good friends, relatives, etc, so a lot more people would know your business. Well, at least for me. I chose to keep my Twitter relatively out of the spotlight save for, like I said, the few friends I have on there.
But, if you're upset with someone, just say it to their face or in a message, not broadcasting it for the world to see. Keep your problems to yourself, resolve them yourself, and if you need a friend to talk to for advice then private message someone. Wrong people can get involved in your drama, and just make it all that much worse.
Also, only 46 days until I see James <3
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